Look, it's freaking awkward enough when your ex starts dating someone new. But imagine I dated my ex-girlfriend's sister for about a month. Think of it this way, would you want your ex to date your brother? level 2. esjay_ Will this ruin your new gf's relationship with her sister? If so, is that really the.
My current SO significant other and I were very close friends in high school and we would always set each other up with dates and stuff. She set me up louis and harry dating kates sister her younger sister and things were going dating ex girlfriend sister until she cheated on me. We broke up, and my SO was on my side of the dating ex girlfriend sister thing and completely supportive. I was shocked to learn that she had feelings for me since second year college. It was definitely weird at first girlfgiend my family would often crack jokes about it. We have been together for eight years now, married for 2.
Fast forward another year or two, and they get married, so now my ex girlfriend is my sister-in-law Small world. Friend turns out to be a big asshole, me and the sister start dating. Meet her friends, turns out her and her sister hang in the same group.
It gets awkward. We date a couple years, I start attending family events regularly. Her sister starts becoming more comfortable around me, sees me as a brother now.
Still weird. Her sister has been the most helpful person planning our wedding. We talked about everything once and agreed not to talk about it again unless something changes.
He lied to me for years about their relationship while I knew they were into each other. How did I know? I know she is 17 but she is very mature. I am thinking of telling here next Summer when she is What do you think? Anish Dear Anish, Reading your letter I am left wondering what is worrying you most about the situation.
Are you concerned about the reaction of your ex or her family if you started dating the younger sister? Are you worried that Priya is too young for you? As I am not sure which it is or whether it is all of them let me take a quick look at each concern in turn. First of all should you worry about what others think? Your ex has moved on and has another boyfriend. Your relationship with Alpana sounded rather tempestuous.
Alpana and her parents may be worried that Priya and you might have a similar experience and they may feel protective towards her because of that. What could you do to help re-assure them all? I would suggest that you treat Priya with great respect and kindness whether your relationship with her develops into something or not. Also, explain to her parents that this relationship will be very different from the one that you had with Alpana. Secondly, is she too young?
If you were in your thirties or forties — a six-year age gap would be hardly noticeable but at your ages — it is far more obvious. Priya may act and look older than she is but the reality is she is still only 17, is not yet an adult and has not left school.
You are in a different phase of life. The danger of her dating an older man now is that she may come to resent it later if she feels that she missed out in any way on her formative years. So, I think your idea of waiting is a good one. However, if you are serious about having a lasting relationship with her — I would even suggest waiting a few more years.
Giving it longer would allow her more time to grow up and to discover more of who she is and what she wants in life. At the least — I would recommend you wait until she has finished with her current boyfriend and has had some time being single.