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Pinterest Picture this: Then, all of a sudden, it happens. Your BFF starts dating that person that you had already expressed interest in. What gives? It can easily leave you feeling hurt, confused, betrayed, and angry all at once — and understandably so. Not only are you dealing with the fact that someone else is dating the person you like, but that someone is your best friend.
In theory, it seems like the best idea ever but, in theory, lots of disasters seem like the best idea ever. Even if dating your best friend does work out in real life, it's still not without its complications. So before you go down that road, here are seven things to consider — seven things that all point in the direction that dating your best friend is a bad idea.
As much as we may not want to admit to it, sex can change everything. Once you've seen someone in such an intimate situation, like sex, you never see them quite the same way again. It's because of this that dating your best friend is such a risk. While dating and allowing yourself to be vulnerable with someone else is always a risk, when it's your best friend you have more to lose, far more is at a stake than just the romantic relationship.
You're basically putting all your bets on the table when you date your best friend and when you do that, it's hard to walk away with everything you started out with when you walked into the room in the first place; it's one hell of a gamble.
That's also why friends with benefits rarely go back to being just friends. You Could Lose Your Best Friend Forever Andrew Zaeh for Bustle If you've ever broken up with a friend , you know it's just as painful — if not more so — than breaking up with a partner.
Now think about losing your partner and you best friend forever because you the two of you decided to give a relationship a try. Isn't the thought alone painful enough? It's definitely not a loss many people would want to risk experiencing, because it's double the pain. Even if you are a natural risk taker, is this a risk worth taking?
Are you willing to, literally, lose it all? No matter what your physical chemistry might be saying , it's important to step outside the scenario and see it clearly. Once you sleep with your best friend, you're heading down a road with no U-turn.
With our best friends, we tend to make allowances for them and let them get away with things that, no way in hell, we'd let others get away with when it comes to dating us. Because of this, you won't see the glaring red flags. You may know your best friend like the back of your hand, but you don't know what it's like to date your best friend.
Your Best Friend Knows You A Little Too Well Andrew Zaeh for Bustle When I first started sleeping with my best friend, before we "officially" started dating, my therapist would tell me over and over again that you're not supposed to know what your best friend looks like or sounds like when they orgasm.
She definitely had a point there. Also, the flip side of that is that you may not want the person you're dating to know the details your best friend knows. They know who you may have had an affair with. They know all your deepest, darkest secrets. This is a tough premise on which to build a romance. Wouldn't a little mystery do a new relationship good? I was utterly shocked and in disbelief. I felt like I'd been burned. I felt stupid. After those feelings came anger.
Immense fury like a caged tiger. I wanted to punch both of them! How could they do this to me?! I hated them and everyone else who I thought could possibly know about their relationship. I felt like a victim of deceit. I thought about them giggling and laughing and kissing and being blissfully happy.
The relationship lasted for about 6 months I think and years later, I've come to realize how silly and stupid I was for having the reaction I did. I think, "My ex is dating my friend" is very common, especially if you live in the suburbs, where everyone knows everyone. If you find yourself in this situation, here are some tips on how to handle it and how to keep from going insane: What they are doing is really uncool and unacceptable.
YOU have done nothing to warrant their behavior. Their relationship is working because of the "scandalous and forbidden" element. That's half the fun for them. When that wears off, and everyone in the community moves on to the next piece of gossip, and your ex and your friend really get to know each other, the appeal will fade.
He or she could be doing this to you to act out his or her passive aggressive anger. How sick is that? Don't even put yourself into that venom.
Remove yourself from it and rise above. Grit your teeth, accept it, act classy and show grace to the outside world. I remember people in my neighborhood would tell me they saw them out and I would seriously cringe, and then go home and cry. The people weren't trying to be cruel, by the way. Make sure not to react in front of others because it could get back to your ex and your friend I mean, your ex friend. Plus, when the relationship ends, the only thing people will remember is how you reacted.
DO NOT make a scene and get into a girl fight with the girl. It's unproductive, psychotic and immature. You don't' have to be overly friendly to your ex and your friend. In fact, if you are a little icy that's okay.
Just don't go postal. Call your REAL girlfriends. The fact that this girl did this to you is probably making you feel insecure about girl friendships.